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Thursday, January 15, 2015

7 Tips How to survive (and thrive) your first year of Homeschooling



 Our first year of homeschooling was a lot like my first year of marriage; much harder than I had expected, but also more rewarding than I had dreamed possible.

 Below are tips that helped me survive, and thrive, through our first year. Many of the tips include studying because let's face it, when you homeschool you must be willing to learn new things right along with your kids.



1. Study Yourself 

 
You are unique; therefore your homeschool room, organization, methods, and routines will also be uniqueNo homeschool looks the same, because no family looks the same. The fact that you are homeschooling testifies that you know your child should not be pushed into a one-size-fits-all-mold, so don't do it to yourself.  While sometimes I wonder how moms did it before the resource of the Internet, I can also see how the temptation to compare can kill the confidence of a new homeschool mom. 

Study you first, before other homeschool moms. What are YOUR strengths and YOUR weaknesses?  My strengths and weaknesses came into play in many ways.  In regards to curriculum, I am not musical or mathematical, so we use a Math Curriculum that has a DVD teacher (Math U See) and an FREE online music curriculum that has a DVD Piano and music teacher. 

It also took me way too long to accept that I am not a morning person. Starting school at 8:00 a.m. like my teacher's manual suggested was just a bad idea for all involved. I also fought battles over silly things, like thinking we had to change into "real clothes" to start our day. I am not saying PJ's are are a must for homeschool, but they aren't a failure either.

You are the  Do what works for you as the teacher.  and you mind need to tinker to see what you need; some moms even need to put on "real" clothes to feel like they started the day.  

Once I accepted that our homeschool should reflect our home, not our home reflect our school, our life was much more pleasant. Now I have a cup of sweet tea and eat breakfast while my kids play with their toys and enjoy each-other's company (for the most part) in the morning.  We start school around 9:30am or 10:00am.  My kids stay in their pajamas & I put on comfortable clothes and a bra (so I can answer the door with some decency). Our Homeschool Schedule is usually book/seat-work until a  few hours after lunch, depending on the day and what subjects we are covering.  

                                   


2. Study your kids MORE than your teacher's manual

Your teacher's manual is not god.  
If that is the only thing you take from this post, please remember it!   Just because your teacher's manual says they should be able to write that sentence that week doesn't mean your child is ready to write that sentence. It is OK to stay on a Math concept for two weeks, even though your manual says they should learn it in two days. 

When you get "stuck" try to count it as a blessing because if your child was not one on one with you are home, they would not be "stuck", they would be "left behind".

I personally love our curriculum , My Father's World, because it combines a few different learning styles that fit our family.  That said, we ignore one third of what is in the manual because it just doesn't "fit" where we are, or that academic need is met elsewhere (we skip their Bible many times because we do to a Bible Study that has it's own homework for my kids, and their art because we take art classes outside the home). 

What Do You Know About Your Child?
What are your children's weaknesses?  What are their strengths?  What kind of learner are they?

I have identical twins who were reading and writing at very different times, and if that doesn't teach you ALL kids learn at different paces, I don't know what will.

This is not something you will necessarily know instinctively (and that is OK!), but you have the very special privilege as a homeschool mom to learn your children on a new and deeper level. 

WAYS TO  STUDY YOUR KIDS

In kindergarten I learned the boys were much happier writing on dry erase boards instead of the worksheets provided. This year we also learned one of my boys has what we dubbed  "reading-induced deafness", and I have to be patient and make sure he truly hears instructions if he is in the middle of a good book and shuts out the world around him...he gets that from me. ;) 

Study Your Kids, not other Homeshool Kids
Remember to study your kids, not the kids of the other homeschool families. For example, one my favorite homeschool families starts kindergarten at 4 years old. I almost gave into the pressure of comparison, but I knew in my heart my kids needed another year of playing and low-key preschool. We started very slowly when the boys were five. To be honest, we all needed that extra year of preschool. 

                                                   

3. Study Your House

Homeschooling Styles- What's the Flavor of your house?
Many moms make the mistake of looking for curriculum before first spending a little time researching homeschool styles. Not many curriculum are purely one style, but knowing your personal bent can take hours off your curriculum search. See this post for  5 Homeschool Teaching Styles.
  1. Traditional 
  2. Classical
  3. Unschooling
  4. Unit Studies
  5. Charlotte Mason 
  6. Eclectic- A mixture of a few or several of the above  
You DO NOT HAVE TO PICK YOUR STYLE RIGHT AWAY, just familiarize with them before you search for curriculum. Not many people are entirely one style of homeschool, but you lean towards certain styles based on your own personality, the needs of your children and overall family unit.  

How does knowing homeschool styles help? If your child hates to read on their own, you can avoid an entirely Charlotte Mason approach. If your child hates to sit or do worksheets, you would probably not do only traditional or classical. If you only have one computer in the house, you won't pick an online school for your 3 different kids. If you like schedules and predictable curriculum, you may not like Unschooling.  

We personally tend toward Unit studies, with a lot of living books from Charlotte Mason Philosophy.  

That said, be prepared that your  style will change as you homeschool!  We recently had an unexpected season of unschooling due to medical reasons.  Life changes all the time and our homeschool has to change alongside.

My favorite book to learn homeschool styles is "First year of Homeschooling your child" by Linda Dobson because she not only describes different homeschool styles, but has a "Week  in the Life" of seven different homeschooling moms. I re-read this book EVERY YEAR for the first FOUR years of homeschooling!!!! 




4. Find Support Online

Many new moms I meet tell me 'I am not not patient enough to homeschool!'  Well guess what, I am not either! I NEED HELP.  I can use my strengths in homeschooling, but I need the community of homeschoolers can come around me and help me with my weaknesses! 

 Like any other rewarding, yet challenging, journey in life, you will need support!!! Seeking out like-minded families in your area will truly make your first year immeasurably better.  It is OK to not be OK in this homeschool journey, and you need to know that others are  right there will you.  

 Use  Facebook  to find a local homeschool group.  This was crucial to our first year of homeschooling.  I am in Facebook book that consist of 1200 plus homeschool families, all within a 40 miles radius of me.   Just seeing the member number of that group reminds me of a very important truth, I am not alone. This local group also helps me find many activities to find support in person....

                                                    

5. Find Support in Person

Friends for Mom
Mom needs friends too!  Parenthood can be lonely, and you as the teacher/principal/administrator need to have a support system to succeed. Online support is easier than finding in-person support.  To find in-person support, you have to be brave, for your kids sake and for yours. Homeschooling changes your friendships a lotyou need others to come along side you who share the same homeschool lifestyle. 

Even introverts need the support of like-minded people in person every now and then. Use your online support groups and be brave; show up to field trips, organize play-dates, etc where you know you will meet other homeschool families.

Meeting other homeschool moms in person shows you how truly diverse this community is. I felt the tug that God was calling me to homeschool, but I did not grow up in area with any homeschooling families. This lack of exposure meant I harbored a lot of the common homeschooling misconceptions.  It was life changing to walk into a room of homeschooling women at a Co-Op Open House and think, "Wow, they look like me!"  I remember the freeing moment when I saw another mom had a nose-ring like me.  It may sound superficial, but trust me, it is so important to meet like-minded families in person.  


Friends for the Kids
 Home-school Classes, Field Trips Groups, and Activities
Use your online support and ASK QUESTIONS about what is in your area, and if others will go with you!
  • Most YMCA's in the country has some type of homeschool program. 
  •  Our area also has The Kroc, a community center from Salvation Army, that has homeschool classes for gym, health, music, and art.   The boys met friends in their classes, and I was able to meet some homeschool moms in person at drop-off
  • The boys attend AWANA  and Bible Study Fellowship weekly with several other children
  • If you plan it, they will come!  Ask families to the park or a local museum! 
Join a Homeschool Co-Op 
See this post to find out what exactly a Homeschool Co-op is. We have attended a few different types and sizes. We now attend a weekly co-op that meets once a week for 12 weeks each semester, it consists of 50 families. My kids can take classes I can not offer at home. As a former Preschool teacher, I  teach the younger kids, while talented singers teach choir and the athletic-minded teach gym.  


6.  Study the laws of your state

We are lucky in  Indiana to have a homeschool friendly atmosphere, but even that depends on your district.  To find more about Indiana Homeschool Laws, click hereStay informed and do not rely on the public school to give you the right information. I have learned the people who know the LEAST about homeschool laws are public schools. 

 The Home-school Legal Defense Association is best place to start.  You can browse their website without becoming a member.  Membership is  encouraged, especially if you are in a state or school district that is not homeschool friendly, or if you have any problems transferring your kids out of public school. 

So many new moms stress themselves over how to inform the school, or what they need to keep to document.   Seek support, and you will do fine!


7. GIVE YOURSELF GRACE

Maybe this should be #1 tip. Homeschooling is HARD because PARENTING IS HARD! 

You will have days that are hard, and days that are great.  You will work to find the balance between being a Mom and a Teacher.  

You will have kids cry over math, and then you will cry over math. 

 You will rejoice with them when they learn something new, and get frustrated with them when they can't read the word they read only TWO MINUTES BEFORE. 

These problems are not exclusive to homeschooling!!!  

Many Moms hesitate to homeschool because they don't want the responsibility of their child's education.  I hate to break it to you, but you are in the end responsible for your child's education, no matter what school they attend. When kids are in public school, you are responsible, but not fully in control. The beauty of homeschooling is you have the responsible AND the control.

Moms with Public School kids cry over math homework too.  They loose their temper when their kids aren't ready for an event.  I REPEAT, PARENTING IS HARD, but you as a homeschooling Mom get to be there for them in the moments they need you most.  

You also get to model the process of forgiveness by having to ask for forgiveness for losing you temper, again.  Just because it is hard doesn't necessarily mean it was the wrong choice. Resistance is part of learning. 

Give yourself grace and seek support! You can do this! Good luck during your first year!




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Monday, January 12, 2015

A Day In the Life: Our Second Grade Room

My Father's World- 2nd Grade Adventures In  U.S. History


Our schoolroom is very small space in our basement, about 10 feet by 9 feet. We start each day with Together Time at the table, or on the couch (next to the table). 

Together Time is usually reading our devotional and/or History Book on the couch.  If we have a science experiment, we do it in the kitchen before heading downstairs to the homeschool room. 
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 I store most of our supplies in a spinning organizer  from Hobby Lobby (used 40 % off coupon of course).

The rest of the art supplies are in the pockets of a screen that I bought from a friend, that also doubles as space to hang posters (clips for poster from Dollar Tree). 


Out Pocket Chart is used for calendar.  I made all the numbers and dates out of plain white paper. 


A local Private School was closing and had a sale of their classroom supplies, and I bought this huge cork bulletin board for $3. It is great for our timeline and Names of Jesus Poster.



After Together Time, each boy has Individual Work, which includes workbox time and chores
Our Workboxes are based on Sue Patrick System, Instead of moving labels to know what they have done, the boys work from top to bottom and keep the draw open of the drawer they are finishing.  I stagger the subjects that need one-on-one time with me, enabling me to help them individually in Math and Language  arts. 





I try to make all copies at the beginning of the year, and organize by week using hanging folders File Tote  . 





Sunday, January 11, 2015

Harry Potter Inspired Gifts

Gryffindor Inspired Infinity Scarf
I did not want an exact replica of the Gryyfindor scarf, because while the recipient is a major HP fan, that is a bit on the nose.  Instead I went with the Gryffindor colors of crimson and gold.

I used a size tewlve Crochet needle, double and half crouchets.
 For yarn colors, I used a cranberry and sunflower.


Snape Inspired Word Art
 Custom Made Digital Word Art from FullerWords






Friday, January 9, 2015

Freezer Cooking with Friends- Round One

Freezer Cooking is much more fun , and easier in my opinion, with a friend! I got together with a friend who has a big kitchen with a lot of counter space. It was our first time, and we were chatting and having fun instead of rushing through each recipe.  If we really focused I am sure we could have cut that time down considerably, but we had a lot of fun.

In hindsight, we should have done less recipes. We only finished 3 of these, and had to do the rest at our own houses. 



RECIPES

  1. Slow Cooker BBQ Pulled Pork 
  2.  Slow Cooker Cilantro Lime Chicken w/ Corn and Black Beans 
  3.  Slow Cooker Teriyaki Chicken Freezer Meal
  4.  Crockpot Ground Turkey Meatloaf 
  5. Lasagna Roll Up Recipe
Easy Slow Cooker Pulled Pork 
Makes 1 gallon bags. Number of servings:8-10

·         1-2-3 pound pork shoulder (also called pork butt or Boston Butt)
·         Sea salt & pepper
·         1 TBSP Minced Dried Onion
·         1 cups barbecue sauce
·         1 cans Root Beer
·         1/2 tablespoon seasoned salt
·         rolls or hamburger buns (not needed until day of cooking)

1.      Label your bags with cooking directions
2.      Rub meat with salt and pepper; set aside.
3.      In medium bowl, whisk together barbecue sauce, Root Beer, & seasoned salt, until smooth, then add onion.
4.     pour over meat; freeze until needed.

To serve: Thaw in refrigerator; pour contents into slow cooker and cook on LOW  heat for 8 hours. Pull meat apart with fork then serve on rolls or hamburger buns.


Crockpot Cilantro Lime Chicken w/ Corn and Black Beans 
·         2 chicken breasts                                      
·         4 TBSP of lime juice                                 
·         2 cups fresh cilantro, chopped                 
·         1 bags (16 oz) bag frozen corn              
·         2 minced garlic cloves                              
·         1/2 TBSP dried minced onion                   
·         1 can black beans, drained and rinsed  
·         2 tsp cumin                                      
·         salt and pepper to taste
·         2  tbsp olive  oil (not needed until day of cooking)

Directions:
1.      Label your bags with cooking the directions
2.      Trim chicken breasts and cut in half to have a total of four pieces of chicken per bag
3.      Place ingredient in a resalable gallon-sized freezer bag. Mix together and zip bag closed. Lay flat to freeze
To Serve
·         When ready to eat, remove from freezer and thaw in fridge for 24 hours.
·         Put contents of bag in Crockpot, and stir in 2 Tbsp of Olive oil.
·         Cook on LOW for 8 hours (or HIGH for 4 hours).  Shred Chicken with Fork.
·         Serve with tortillas and toppings such as with sour cream, guacamole, salsa, and cheese.


Teriyaki Chicken Crockpot Freezer Meal 
Makes 1 gallon-sized bags
·         2 chicken breasts                                       
·         1 tbsp dried mince onion                       
·         2 minced garlic cloves                             
·         1 cab (15 ounce) undrained cans pineapple     
·         1 cup teriyaki sauce     

Day of cooking-steamable stir fry veggies                             

Directions:
1. Label your bags with cooking the directions.
2. Trim chicken breasts and cut in half to have a total of four pieces of chicken per bag. Add meats to bag
4. Add of each of other ingredients to each bag.
5. Let out air, seal bag, and lay flat in freezer.

To serve. Cook on low 8 hours or high 4 hours. Serve over hot rice with bag to story fry steamed veggies.


Ground Turkey Meatloaf Recipe
Makes 1.5 lb loaves

Ingredients
·         1.5 pounds lean ground beef or turkey
·         1/2 cup 2% milk (or whatever you have on-hand)
·         1 large eggs
·         1 package onion soup mix
·         1/2 cup breadcrumbs
·         1 TBSP parsley
·         1/4 cup shredded carrots (adds moisture to turkey so it doesn’t dry out while cooking)
·         1 teaspoon salt
·         ½ teaspoon pepper

Materials needed;
·         Cooking spray
·         Loaf pan to help shape loaves
·         Aluminum foil

Directions
1.      Prepare 9×5″ loaf pan by placing one piece  aluminum foil in bottom and sides, then coating with cooking spray
2.      In a large mixing bowl, combine turkey, milk, eggs, onion soup mix, shredded carrots, breadcrumbs, salt, pepper, and dried parsley.  Spoon half into prepared pan.
3.      Fold foil over loaf.  Take loaf out of pan, cover with another layer of foil. Label and store in freezer for up to 3 months.

To serve
·         thaw in fridge for  48 hours
·         Bake at 350 degrees for hour to 90 min, or until cooked through. 
·         Add topping of your choice half way through cooking (ketchup or BBQ sauce).


Vegetarian  Lasagna Roll Up Recipe
Makes  pan of 9 lasagna roll-ups
·         1 egg
·         1, 15oz container of part-skim ricotta cheese
·         1/2 cup freshly shredded parmesan cheese
·         2 cups shredded mozzarella cheese
·         1 tablespoon Italian seasoning
·         1/2 boxes (9 oz ) frozen chopped spinach, thawed, squeezed to drain
·         1/2 tbsp dried garlic powder
·        1/4  teaspoon salt
·         1/4 teaspoon pepper
·         2, 24 oz jars of your favorite pasta sauce
·         1 boxes of lasagna noodles (you will need 9 for each pan, but make two extra in case a few split)
·         1 Tbsp vegetable oil

  1. Prepare 9×9″ freezable casserole dishes by spraying with cooking spray, then spreading 1 cup of sauce on the bottom. Lightly Sprinkle ½ tsp of dried garlic powder on sauce.
  2. In a large pan on your stovetop, cook lasagna noodles according to directions on box, add 2 tbsp oil to help with sticking. Cook to a little before al’ dente, noodle just need to be malleable.
  3. While noodles are cooking, create cheese spread in a medium-sized bowl by combining eggs, ricotta cheese, spinach,  parmesan cheese, Italian seasonings, salt and pepper.
  4. After noodles are finished cooking, strain them and arrange them on wax paper in assembly line.
  5. Top each noodle with about 1/4 cup cheese spread.
  6. Roll-up each noodle and place in prepared pan with seam down. 
  7. Top roll-ups with remaining sauce, and top with mozzarella cheese.

To Freeze
Cover with two layers of foil (to avoid freezer burn), label, and freeze.  Used within 3 months.

To serve.


  • That in fridge for 24 hours
  • Take off one layer foil and bake in preheated oven ,350 degrees, for about 25 minutes.  Remove foil and bake for another 15 minutes, or until cheese is melted and sauce is hot and bubbly.
  • Let stand for 5 minutes to set.  Then, slice your roll-ups and serve!


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