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Tuesday, October 29, 2019

Christian Books about Sex to Read With Your Kids



I always feel talking to my kids about big subjects is easier when the author of a good book starts the conversation for me. There are A LOT of great books on this subject, but I have not read them all.  Below are the books I have used myself as I teach my kids about sex and puberty. If you have any others, please comment and share!

WHY YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT SEX OFTEN AND EARLY
Sex education with your children should NEVER be just one conversation that begins at puberty, many call it "the talk".  Kids start learning about reproduction as they see animals  at the zoo mating, start with those conversations. Don't shy away, keep it simple with "That is how babies puppies are made."  Age appropriate organic conversations build on themselves so that when they are ready for the mechanics and emotions of sex ,close to puberty and beyond, they have a foundation of communication and trust with you. Sex is a wonderful and beautiful creation from God.

You should be talking to your kids about sex early and often because:
  • It helps their future marriage by taking away shame and fear. Sex is a made by God and is a wonderful thing to be enjoyed. See my post on how to talk about Song of Solomon with your kids




PRESCHOOLERS AND ELEMENTARY

God Made All of Me: Helping Children Protect Their Bodies
Read it with children as young as 2 or 3 years old, up to late elementary and junior high. This book is NOT about mechanics of  sex, but about private parts and how children can protect their bodies, which is an essential part of the sex education. This is an amazing book that is no way graphic, but teaches children that no part of them is shameful. The theme to children is that they do have a power over their body, who touches it and where.  Learning healthy and appropriate boundaries for the private parts is your first step in sex education.  I honestly am not sure there is even an age limit on this book because I read it with my TWELVE YEAR OLDS and they learned something new. The information for parents in the back of the book is priceless.




UPPER ELEMENTARY
(4th-5th grade)
The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made 
I can not recommend this book more. It was a gentle approach to a very difficult subject of the mechanics of sex. I would not recommend just giving it to your child, but really take the time to read it one on one with each child.  It has alternating pages, one for a young reader and then for older children or the adult. Have your child read the young words and you read the older reading level.  It is starts the best conversations. My favorite parts that it doesn't end with an awkward note of reproduction, but on the redeeming note of adoption.  It really was a wonderful and essential resource for every family.




JUNIOR HIGH
Conversations about Sex and Puberty MUST BEGIN BEFORE PUBERTY BEGINS. You need to have conversations that PREPARE your children for this crazy time in life, not REACTIONARY  scrambling to help them in the midst of the crazy hormones.  Build trust and open communication with them before their brains and bodies fill with hormones.

Dr. Dobson's Preparing for Adolescence Audio 
We listened to these as a family. They are not all about sex, but the puberty CD that discussed sex  was, in my opinion, very well done. It covered the biological aspects of puberty that will enable girls and boys to eventually become parents. Boys AND girls need to know about menstruation, and Dr. Dobson covered it in a very age-appropriate way. He also conveyed that sex is not just for making babies, but for also for pleasure.
I appreciated he also talks about hormonal driven masturbation in these years, with helpful practical advice  on how to respond as parents. This opened up conversations for my husband talk to my sons about healthy non-shameful sexual urges they will experience as a young adult versus harmful lust of pornography. I would recommend listening to these as a family, not just giving to your child to listen to. They spark great discussions.




Guy Stuff- Body Book for Boys
This is not a Christian book, but it is very very well done.  We bought it when my boys were in 6th grade, and they read it often. Every issue your boy will encounter in puberty is covered, from late bloomers to shaving, to pimples. There is not morality issues discussed, but deals with he physical changes, like how to clean up after a nocturnal emissions. It also has great emotional help, like how to control your temper as your hormones surge.   See more and pictures inside the book with the review I already wrote on this great resource.



The Care and Keeping of You. 
This the girl version of GUY STUFF, by the same authors. I have friends who have read this book with their daughters and highly recommend it. 



FOR ADULTS TO READ

I recommend Straight Talk with your Kids about Sex by Josh and Dottie McDowell. I personally think there is WAY TOO MUCH shame around the topic of sex in the Christian culture, which leads to children not speaking up if they are sexually abused or not having a healthy sex life in marriage.  You can read about my thoughts on how to share about sex with your kids in my post  Sharing Song of Solomon with your kids.  Josh give practical ways to open up this discussion with your kids.


READ MORE ABOUT HOW TO SHARE SONG OF SOLOMON WITH YOUR KIDS



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