Your words reflect your heart, but your words can also change your heart. In regards to spouses, negative words about your husband are going to give you more negative feelings about him.
Talk up your husband.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for processing out your problems, but I have found from personal experience that when I rehearse my frustrations about my husband over and over again, I can't heal from them and let them go.
The opposite has also proved true, when I rehearse my husband's positive qualities, those are the ones that stick into my mind and heart. Positive words lead to positive feelings. When I tell others how amazing my husband is, my feelings follow.
Talking up your husband not only improves him in your eyes, but makes you more of a joy to be around. To be frank, it is unpleasant to spend time with women who are constantly bashing their husbands. Talk up your husbands, for both your good.