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Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Surviving Back-To-School Season as a Homeschooler

"Back-to-School" season is exciting! We organize our homeschool areas and find great deals on those much needed homeschool essentials.  Back-to-School Season can also be bit of  a challenge for us as homeschoolers, because it clearly highlights our different lifestyle.

It is important to remember that homeschooling is lifestyle choice.  Even if you only plan to homeschool for a year, it goes against the mainstream and changes more in your life than you'll first realize. Having a different lifestyle from others can be just plain hard sometimes, especially if you struggle with insecurity.

During this time of the year, I have to sometimes remind that Back-to-School  is a retail season, and just like every other retail season in America, it will come at us from all sides. We will see those cute new backpacks as we grocery shop, and our news-feed will start filling up with smiling kids in their new gear on their first day of school. I must remember that it is an advertiser's job to create a "want" where there wasn't one before.

Don't get me wrong, I wish all the happiness on those smiling faces getting on buses with their new clothes and backpacks!  I also that hype needs to happen for those smiling faces too, to get them excited to end summer.

Even thought I am sincerely wish the best for those smiling faces, most of us don't buy our kids the new shiny back to school lunchboxes and new uniforms.  We spend hours making copies and sharpening pencils, and in my case, trying to get my kids to change out of their pajamas to get a "first day of school" picture at 4:30pm...or sometimes the 3rd day of school!

The biggest challenge I face during Back-to-School season has nothing to do with  sale on glue sticks, but how homeschooling subtly shifts some of my friendships. The conversations in my group of friends changes, from summer plans to their kids' classroom assignments. They start sharing countdowns until they get their school year "free time" back, and celebration videos of the kids getting on the bus.

My public school friends will change their routine again, and our friendships again change.  There main conversations will be about PTA and class assignments.  There is nothing wrong with their routine or conversations, but we have less in common and less time together during this season.

Back-To-School Season highlights that I have a different lifestyle than many of my friends. And that is OK. I still love them, and they love me. We have a different routine, but we do not have a different end goal.  We all love our kids, and we all want them to be the best version of them they can be. I am challenging myself NOW not to become defensive or hurt by the back to school celebrations. I am also praying for compassion for those public school friends who also become defensive in response to my choice to homeschool.

One practical way I commit to celebrate the back-to-school time is to take a moment to pray for each of the children, or family, that shows up in my news-feed in their brand new backpacks.  I want to pray for their teacher, their parents, and their school year.

My boys may one day marry one of these beautiful public school girls, or become best friends with a public school boy.  I must stop looking at my own insecurities, and look at the amazing children  who will change our world one day, public school and homeschooled alike.



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